At 18 years old, Josh Harris believed that intimacy is the byproduct of committed relationships and that it's not appropriate to engage in intimate relationships until or unless you are ready to make a life-long commitment. Like so many Evangelical Christians, Josh believed that sex and intimacy are the same thing. Millions of couples have bought this same lie that just by waiting and making a vow of commitment, they would experience deep intimacy in marriage. In Episode One, I discussed how dating is actually relationship practice and you can't become good at anything without practice. You can't just wait until you get married to start learning how to appropriately engage in relationships.
The same is true of intimacy. Intimacy doesn't just "happen" you have to create it. Sex is not intimacy and intimacy is not sex. You can have sex without intimacy and you can have intimacy without sex. Unfortunately, thanks to buying the lie that all they had to do was wait to get married, millions of couples and singles are finding intimacy hard to find. In this episode I will talk about why intimacy is so important, how to find it and some of the obstacles that we all face to finding it.
I Kissed Dating Goodbye Part 2: Sex Is Not Intimacy